Is my husband cheating can someone give me advise please?

my husband who is 53 works for a construction as a supervisor i just found out he has a 22 year old girl working for him but has kept it a secret from me for the last 6 months he has not wanted anything to do with me so what else am i to think.what do you think?Is my husband cheating can someone give me advise please?
Red flag, yes he is probably cheating. Been there done that. Check his bilfold, cell phone, phone bill. You can get alot of infor from these. Follow him if he says hes going somewhere make sure he is. Does he take company trips? If so is there 2 tickets and does he ask you to go along? Or does he insist you stay home. Check credit cards to see if there are things bought that you didn't get like jewelry, perfume, candles, clothes. Smell his clothes for perfume. Is he wearing jewelry that you didn't buy him or cologne you didn't get him. Is he doing things different in his appearence? Is he trying to loose weight or change his hair color, or is he tanning? Does he get pissed if you try to talk to him about her or where he might be going? Think about it you will see alot of red flags.Is my husband cheating can someone give me advise please?
my parents went through a similar situation, and when my dad figured out the other girl would never wash his nasty clothes he became an *** to her and kicked her to the curb... what was worse is he moved her into our hous and everything- and they still acyed like it was nothing (I only gtee it was what it was because I walked in on them once...) anyways, it sounds like three things could be happening: 1: he is cheating. 2: he thought she was cute but never made a move, and kept it secret because of said feelings. 3: he knew how you would react and kept it a secret because of it. or he just did't think to tell you, but most men these days are not that naive to thier wives feelings.


I suggest you openly confront him... nd hear him out. if he changes his story or it doesn't make sense, then something is up. try talking to him.. if he doesn't make sense, it's a goosign he's hiding thing.
I think that if you have a tendency of overeacting to certain situations then he may have kept it a secret because of that. But if that is not the case then I think that he presented himself with something to hide. How long have you been married. And have you known him to have a penchant for younger girls. And maybe there is nothing going on. Who is to say that a 22 year old girl would want an older man. Maybe he has a harmless crush on him. But whatever the situation you should ask him why he felt like he needed to hide this from you.
it's really tough to say with the evidence that you have. perhaps you can address your sex life as a start without referring to ';another woman';. let him know how you feel (regarding his distance) and try to find out what's bothering him. maybe he's just at a down point and needs some space (and that it's not you at all). does he usually tell you who he works with? if he didn't tell you about the girl, maybe it didn't cross his mind to have to mention that there was a new employee, and that she was a girl and that she was 22 , maybe he just didn't care (unless a conversation took place that he was definitely hiding it from you). try not to jump to anything and stress over it. just try to be open about your feelings without getting blinded by your emotions. it may absolutely nothing. hope things work out.
Definitely could be a sign ... but don't jump to conclusions.





is he working out more?


is he staying at work later?


is he treating you poorly?


is he taking better care of himself?





... all signs of him cheating. Him not being emotionally involved is also a sign of him cheating.





what do you want to do? work it out ... get him into counseling.


leave him ... collect evidence and then file for divorce -- do it as a surprise attack it will catch him off guard.





i suggest counseling first ... for everyone. I know my husband cheated on me. He ended leaving but at least I said, I tried. And you know it was the best thing that ever happened to me because he became so mentally abusive and verbally abusive i didn't want that to be what I leave as a legacy for my children.





good luck and best wishes.
Its not normal to hide something so simple as a collegue from your wife unless you are the insanely jealous type and he didnt need the hedache and couldnt trust you not to over react. If he has not slept with you in last six months then I think you have issues aside of this woman and need to address with him. How did you find out about the woman? and what did he say? I think this may help you. Also, it is extremley unlikely a 22 yrd old girl would look at ur husband with so many young men out there and on site with the world at her feet.





Just talk to him and your gut will tell you all you need to know.
He may have just kept this from you because he didn't feel that he needed to say anything about it because there's no reason, or might of just not wanted to make you jealous. Are you usually a jealous person? Do you feel this way alot? If not, sometimes our feelings about these things turn out to be true, you should talk to him, and see if something might be going on. Watch his body language, if he has been acting very weird around you, then you might want to look into it a little more.
Look, not all men want to do it all the time. There is not right answer from us since it is possible he is cheating on you for the following facts





never told you about the girl


keep secret from 6 months





Now you know, as a guy, I dont think men should tell their business all the time to girls.


no offence
find out when their on the job what location go sit outside the location when it gets time for lunch follow your husband. He could be doing things with her at lunch. She could be doing things with him at work to get paid more on the job and have some pull with the boss.


They could be having lunch together and or hitting up some motel or her place who knows. But yeah it sounds strange definitely something to follow up on. Good Luck you never know might be nothing at all..
The question is, why would a 22 yr old girl want to see someone 30 years older than her? Ask yourself - exactly how likely would that be? It would be like getting it on with her dad.





He may be after the girl, but I would highly doubt the feeling is mutual, and in that case, nothing will come of it.
yea i would think he is seeing her. but could be wrong because he didn't tell you because he didn't want to upset you. or you could hire a P.I to look into things for you and follow him around to see what he does for a few days. to see if he is spending that kinda time with her. or to see she might just work for him. check out your choices first.
Either hes having an affair or you are the sort of person who has a hissy fit everytime he has worked with a female in the office who is in the least bit attractive. What would a 22 yr old want to be doing with a 53 yr old, I mean really?
are you the jealous type? maybe he just didn't wanna give you a reason to be jealous over nothing...





there is reason to think that he is, but there is also reason to think that he isn't... who knows, maybe he doesn't even pay much attention to the girl?
Six months in a marriage is a long time. Why haven't you two talk about his lack of interest during this time for you? I think he wants your attention. I do not believe that the girl wants your husband or is having relations with him.
you should confront him, and tell him you know that the girl works for him, and ask why he didn't tell you, and tell him about your concerns about him not telling you and what it makes you think, see what he says then go from there.
Unless you are the insanely jealous type there would be no reason to conceal the fact that a co-worker is a young female. Look for other clues. Asking him if he is being unfaithful is pointless.
There's a slim chance he kept it from you because he didn't want to start any problems, but if he wants nothing more to do with you, you have a clear answer. so sorry
Dump him, i hate unfaithful men. My old man was one of them and i know for a fact that you'll go through probably one of the hardest moments in your life.





But once a cheater, always a cheater.
oh betty, i think you have a problem. i can't think of any other reason he would hide that kind of thing. do some spy work. you know us ladies can be fruitful when we need to be. good luck
U need to keep an eye on him and see for yourself if hes cheating cause what men does not want nothin with his wife? If hes not getting it at home then where's he is getting it at? Think about that. OPEN YOUR EYES
i can't tell you anything until you start spying and find more evidence.





oh yeah, don't ask him because 3 out of 4 guys will take that to the grave.
Sometimes a man will keep something from us so we don't freak out and jump to conclusions. If you are concerned, ask him what the deal is.
perhaps in his eyes the marriage is over . having said that' he should grow a pair and talk it over with you .
I think you should sit down and talk with him and tell him your worries and Maybe it's just something simple. Good Luck
Good possibility.
you should ask him. maybe he kept it from you in order to stop you from thinking things?
it looks like it.....
I feel for you. These things are tough. Why don't you ask him?
Get a lawyer!!!
hire a p.i.
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