I'm happily married but attracted to my colleague at work. Any advise?

I'm struggling to deny and avoid the feeling. I love my spouse and not intend to break the relationship but my feeling getting stronger to the other person. I love my job, can't even think to change it. I really don't know what to do. Pls help?I'm happily married but attracted to my colleague at work. Any advise?
You need to figure out what is causing the attraction. It is normal for both males and females in a relationship to have crushes on other people, but an attraction that causes you to lust and think a lot about anohter person is a warning sign that something might be missing in your marriage. Try your best to figure out why you are attracted to this other person. Is she easy to talk to, funny, nice, a good listener, or physically attractive. If its just physical then you need to remember that looks dont last forever and maybe you can encourage your wife to do something new to her look that might provide you with that exictement. If its anything persoanlity wise then you need to tell your spouse that you have some needs that arent being met. Dont be too specific, but let her know for example that you have trouble talking to her because she is too judgemental. If she denies it or laughs it off, then say ';no its true and because of it i feel the need to talk to other people and share my thoughts with others instead of my own spouse. This should get her attention that you are drifting away. About your job, i wouldnt quit it, because as long as the real issue is at hand, any other job you go to, the problem will arise again.I'm happily married but attracted to my colleague at work. Any advise?
If you really love your wife you would force yourself to stop. Flip the situation and see how you would feel if your wife was developing feelings for someone she worked with.
change departments if possible..... im sure you are liking this co-worker, because they get ot hear eveytihing that your spouse is not and then they know to be that.....hence your attraction, they are everything the spouse isnt......what happens when you get with the co-worker...thye then become the full part of your life and you start to notice things they arent......do you move to the next co-worker?
You already solved your problem. You love your wife, and you love your job. Which one is more important? From your brief question, one of them will be lost eventually. Right now you have the power to decide. Eventually, you probably won't.
Stay away from the collegue!!!!
You are human, not a machine. We are capable of being attracted to other people even whilst in a happy relationship with someone.





The key here is simply self control. You simply have to exercise it. If you love your spouse, then you have every reason to avoid acting on your feelings. Stay away from this person as much as you can, and always keep in mind what you stand to lose if you do anything with this person.





Eventually, with your willpower, you will get through this stage and be proud of yourself for doing the right thing and honouring your spouse and yourself.
You aint so happy if you're attracted to someone else and thinking about things YOU shouldn't be thinking of.





DON'T DO IT..YOU'LL REGRET IT LATER...BIG TIME
no texting, emailing, private lunches or 'happy-hours for 2'
wat the wife dont know wont hurt but wat about the colleague dose she know your married and will she keep quiet if so have fun
Would you husband be ok with an 'open' marriage? You could have your 'dates' and he could have his...


If this doesn鈥檛 work you could give 鈥榶ourself鈥?permission to explore this new crush. If you do this you will most likely go too far.


The final solution is you need to find out something you dislike about this person and focus on it.
Why do people ask for advice and then say not to tell them to do the obvious?





Okay, since you can't stay away and you won't change jobs, then by all means, have a torrid affair, ruin your life and your wife's and become so miserable you kill yourself.





Or, maybe, listen to reason.
I got a hottie at work too. I just fantasize about doing dirty things to her when I beat it.
Find a good divorce lawer cause your done.
if you're ';happily married'; why are you attracted to someone else?
Do not ruin hour ';happy'; marriage by having an affair or leaving our spouse. You made a commentment, maybe you and your spouce need to go to counciling as it sounds there is lack of something in your marriage, otherwise you would not be attracted and have feeling for someone else.
I guess if you want to remain happily married, my only advice is that you had better not act on those feelings for your colleague!
Ask to be transferred so you won't see that person again, or quit your job.
you made a vow keep it marrage is forever ask ur self this are u happy with her stay with ur wife do not listen to ur feelings follow ur heart
Don't cheat, whatever you do. Once trust is gone most relationships fall apart. It isn't fair to compare a long term relationship to the exciting stages of a hot fling. I would talk to your spouse and in a roundabout way tell them what you need and what you feel like you don't have.
Do something inexcusable to the person at work so they'll hate you. Then bask in the comfort of a sacred marriage bed. Seriously though, you need search your heart and soul. There's something wrong with you if you cant just get over some person at work.
Yes, I have advice. Keep your pants on.
Rekindle that feeling with your wife and forget the other woman. If you love her, get creative in your relationship. Try something new. Join a club or of special interest (art class, sports club, etc) Soon that feeling with the other woman will pass.